2018 participant:

Zen practice helped to clear the mind and focus on NVC. For me, as relatively inexperienced Zen-meditator it was interesting to know more about the spiritual basis of NVC and to realize the importance of attention/mindfulness and empathy/compassion for Zen and NVC.

I am very enthusiastic about this retreat and I would advice it to anyone who experiences conflicts in professional and private settings or has trouble to stand up for his/her needs in an effective way. You learn to communicate about your own needs and those of others. By doing so you will be able to connect to each other and find win-win perspectives in almost any situation.

(Sander, The Netherlands – 2018 Retreat)

Starting with the basics of NVC you will explore in various ways the many aspects that are relevant for connecting with yourself, expressing yourself and deeply hearing the other.

Through its emphasis on deep listening in full presence—to ourselves as well as to others—NVC will support you to discover the depth of your own, and other people’s, compassion. Very similar to the eightfold path of the Zen practice NVC aims the transformation of judgments, of separation and suffering into mutual respect, deep connection and the joy of contributing to everybody’s wellbeing. You will experience and explore NVC and its relationship with the Zen practice at different levels, both as a spiritual practice as well as a concrete set of skills that will enable you to create life-serving relationships, families and communities. NVC will help you to prevent and resolve conflicts, to heal personal pain and relationships, to promote connection and cooperation, and to live in connection with others in personal and works settings.

Whatever your motivation is to come to this retreat and to learn NVC, it requires you to join with an intention and openness to investigate your own thinking and behaviour, and a willingness to transform moral judgments you might have that stand in the way of a compassionate attitude.

There will be plenty of time for interaction with fellow participants, for questions and to engage in dialogue during the day program.

This retreat is suitable for participants with or without experience of NVC and with experience in, or openness to, the practice of Zen.

Optional extra day - Deepening the relationship Nonviolent Communication and Zen (Buddhism)

This day is especially relevant for (experienced) zen practitioners, or anybody that would like to explore more profoundly the relationship and/or differences between NVC and zen (Buddhism). We will look at some relevant fundamental excerpts from the Buddhists psychology and its relationship with western psychology. Other aspects of the day can be a further exploration and expression of your own spirituality.

We will jointly aim to create a space for mutually supportive discussions and for group wisdom to arise. A learning path for all of us on this special day.

Our teacher will be Ruud Baanders, to read more about Ruud please look at his website http://www.mahakaruna.org.uk/ruud.html

Day Schedule

Day 1
17.00-18.00 arrival
19:00 Dinner
20.00 Opening Retreat
21:00 Meditation (zazen)
21:30 Preparing for the night

Day 2 and 3
06:45 Meditation (zazen, kinhin, zazen)
08:30 Breakfast
09:30 NVC
13:00 Lunch + Break
15:30 NVC
19:00 Dinner
20:30 Zazen, sutra recitation
22:00 Preparing for the night

Day 4
As day 2 and 3
20:00 Closing retreat
21:00 Zazen, sutra recitation
22:00 Preparing for the night

Day 5
6:45 Meditation (zazen, kinhin, zazen)
8:30 Breakfast

Ending retreat and departure for those of 5-day retreat

Optional day 5 (10th of june)
10:00 Retreat Deepening Zen and NVC
13:00 Lunch + Break
15:30 Retreat Deepening Zen and NVC
19:00 Dinner
20:00 Zazen, sutra recitation
22:00 Preparing for the night

Day 6 (11th of june)
Ending retreat and departure after breakfast for those who did the optional day.

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